This is the age of specialization and we must increasingly rely on each other to manage. So, answering the question, “Who can I trust?”, is an ever-present tape playing in the background of our minds most of each day.
I suggest you look at the question of trust in two parts:
1. Do I trust this person’s motives?
2. Do I trust this person’s knowledge, ability, and judgement?
To have real trust you must answer YES to each. If you cannot be confident that someone’s motives are aligned with your own, there is and should be a limit as to how much you will rely on their suggestions or perspective. You may continue the conversation, but you need to ask many more questions and be more inclined to verify what you are being told with another or other sources. On the other hand, if you are confident that the other person has your best interests at heart, you can move on quickly to the second question which may not be totally black and white, but is usually easier to answer.
Long relationships matter. If you have known and observed another for a longer period you get to know them at a level not achievable otherwise. That can build your confidence in your views of them on the two-part trust question. Relationships are worth the investment.
Final thought: Others are viewing you through these same lenses. Be careful to serve others well by thinking about their best interests and any perspectives you offer.
